Day 8: Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit
This one is going to be quite a short post (not just because I’m tired and it’s getting late but) because I feel like I am starting to sound like a broken record now. I could answer this question from the perspective I have answered the majority of the other questions with and take an example from my most recently failed relationship. While I wouldn’t say this person ‘made my life hell’ (although the times we broke up and the final ‘truth comes out’ episode certainly felt like it) they didn’t treat me the way they should have done. By that I mean they didn’t respect me by betraying and lying to me and so they treated me like shit. The most important thing is that I have learned from it and as I progress through these challenges I realize that I continue to learn from it every day; it is good reinforcement in case my brain decides to ‘flop’ and tempt me to repeat my mistakes. I’m convinced I won’t.
Overall though I’m quite happy to say that the relationships I now have in my life are with people who I know won’t treat me like shit or make my life hell. I haven’t made many tight bonds with new people recently and as such I haven’t given anyone the opportunity to impact my life so negatively or dramatically and that’s a good thing.
I would like to think that I have always been a friendly person and I believe that my friendships across the world prove that. It has always been relatively easy for me to make new friends (whether we get close or not is a different story) as I’m quite open and easy going about most things. However, I think I have reached a point in my life now where I’m beginning to be really careful with who I let into my life and who I let close to me because I’m tired of trying with people only to be taken for granted or treated badly. I’m not just talking about my most recent experiences either but I’m thinking of the people who have come and gone who have treated me like shit (not one person in particular). Right now I’d much rather have great relationships with those I already have close to me instead of letting people in who might eventually mistreat me as a friend.